am I the selfish one?

I leave work early to finally get home at a reasonable time.

I order a VIA and it arrives on time. 

(VIA is a shared ride service and can pick up and drop off other riders along the same route).

In the VIA are three other passengers. One is having a casual conversation on her phone, as if no one else is in the car. Let's call her passenger A.

I am sitting in the front seat and whisper to the driver, "Should she be on her phone?"

The driver has a big, booming baritone voice, and says to A, "Ma'am, you are not allowed on the phone in a VIA. It's a rule."

"Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't know that; it's my first time," she replies, and immediately hangs up.

But being the cynic that I am, I'm thinking, really?  Does there have to be a rule that says no casual talking on your phone when you are in a shared ride with other passengers? Shouldn't you intuitively just know that?

Then, it turns out, A had a problem with her VIA and is requesting a drop-off on 39th and Second. We are crossing over 50th St. to then head North on First o the Upper Eastside, where everyone else in the Via is heading.

But the driver is kind and says, "I'll need a consensus from the other three passengers, but if they're okay with it, I'm happy to drop you on 39th."

That's 22 blocks out of the way. In midtown. Around 7pm, still rush hour. While it can take only an extra 10 minutes, it can also take an extra 45 minutes, depending on traffic.

No one says anything. No one, I guess, wants to be the bad guy.

So I speak up.

"I'm really sorry but I need to get home, and don't want to go 22 blocks out of our way."

The driver apologizes to A and drops her on Second and 50th.

And to her credit, she doesn't complain or argue.

But after A leaves, the driver, in a cordial tone, says to me, "That was really mean of you. She had a really bad day."

We get into a calm discussion where he tells me that if he were a passenger, he wouldn't have said no. What's a little more time?  And I say, but I never would have asked to inconvenience three strangers to suit me. 

Once home, I wondered.

Would most people have said nothing and done a nice thing? Or would most be like me and speak up. I didn't have to be at home for any special reason, I was just tired and wanted to get home sooner rather than later.

What would you have done?